I think that it is tempting to think nothing is happening because you can't automatically see it. That doensn't mean it is not happening. Do you have the Divorce Remedy? If so, read the story about Carol and Don? in the pulling or putting it all together chapter. It is a great example of her ignoring the affair and getting on with her life while continuing to be a kind and pleasant spouse and friend. AND remember that most affairs fizzle in six months. It is incredibly hard to ignore it but it isn't like you have nothing to do in the meantime. Work on you and be determined to enjoy each day. Don't waste today focusing on what isn't working but instead on what is.
