I know I'm new at this but in my opinion you never give up. If you give up what were you fighting for in the first place. I hope my marriage never ends in D but if it does (against my will) the door will always be open for my H to walk back in at any time. My love for him is too all-comsuning for it to be any other way.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15