And also as you may have seen in my thread, one of my goals is to do what I can to help my wife become that person, even if the end result is still a divorce. To me that's unconditional love.
First of all Frank I do have to say I am lucky to still have my wife n my life daily and showing some positive signs toward me! I agree the OM is a high price to pay, but that is price I am willing to pay for if it means spending the rest of my life with the a women that I truly love!
I truly learned what unconditional love is through all this! I thought I knew the meaning once I had kids but because of the S and the OM I learned that I truly love my W and will always love her unconditionally! It is a very intense feeling that is hard to describe! I have to agree with you Frank that I want my wife to be the best person she can be! At times that is what keeps me going knowing that being the person I can be for her will only help her grow in the end. The only problem is at times my perception of the "ideal" W or person she SHOULD be gets in the way of my actions! For example wanting her to feel the love and passion that I feel for her by saying "I love you" one to many times! Then expecting her to respond the same way...then it doesn'happen and the depression sets in and the rollercoaster ride continues!
I guess after all this I have question will the spouse who returns ever appreciate the love and turmoil we all have endured, and will they have the same passion back towards us? Hoping to find out!!!
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
