Quote: All I have been doing is reading looking for that one "answer" that will solve my stitch!
According to the Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy, The answer to the Ultimate Question of Life, the Universe, and Everything is 42
Quote: I agree I need to let her initiate more of the I love you, and hugs and kisses! Whe actually asked me for a kiss when I left the house after I went home for lunch! She stuck her lips out and went "Smooch smooch" !
Sigh. I envy you that you get kisses and hugs. But the price you pay (OM) is very high. My W considers us separated and going to be divorced so any touching is off limits unless she perceives that I AM NEEDY in which case she will hug me. Since I no longer want to LOOK needy, the hugs have stopped.
Quote: You need your individuality separate from your marrage and realationship. I lost alot of that and know that I need to depend on myself to get what I want out of life and not others. My W is my soul mate and I want a person to share in all the happiness life has to offer! That is why I want her happy as an individual first so that we can build a truly strong realationship!
I totally agree, I lost my individuality in the past 5 years and became totally dependent on my wife for my validation. Now it's all gone so I have been struggling to rebuild my 'self' and I am about 80%-90% there.
And also as you may have seen in my thread, one of my goals is to do what I can to help my wife become that person, even if the end result is still a divorce. To me that's unconditional love.
