All I have been doing is reading looking for that one "answer" that will solve my stitch! I know it is not there but reading helps you process alot of what I am goin thru! TMU I agree I need to let her initiate more of the I love you, and hugs and kisses! Whe actually asked me for a kiss when I left the house after I went home for lunch! She stuck her lips out and went "Smooch smooch" ! I know too many details! But I responded gave her a kiss and said "Thanks that was a nice surprise!" As soon as I said it I said to myself "You dumby you had to open your mouth!" Anyways a positive but you are right TMU I need to step back a little and see what she does! In the process I still need to be true to myself, and what my core values are. Through all this I realized how much my wife means to me and I will treat her as that special person she truly is! But I need to "Act as if" I am truly happy and not project any negativity back to her! NY and TMU you are both right! You need your individuality seperate from your marrage and realationship. I lost alot of that and know that I need to depend on myself to get what I want out of life and not others. My W is my soul mate and I want a person to share in all the happiness life has to offer! That is why I want her happy as an individual first so that we can build a truly strong realationship! OK enough rambling! One thing that plagues me is it is so obvious when she does not wear her wedding rings how long do I say and do nothing?
Tim
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