Quote: How about becoming more detached instead, hmmmm? How about letting go of the idea that you can control how she feels, hmmm? Think about what I wrote regarding 'establishing boundaries in a loving way'
That's more what I meant, not 'cold and distant'. It's just that when I did that W took it as 'cold and distant', which it wasn't. But since she was used to 'warm puppy' any change seemed drastic. ANd you DO have to tell her WHY you have changed when she asks. Tell her from the point of view that YOU have to take care of YOU right now. You're not blaming her, you're taking care of YOU.
