Quote: I feel like telling her to make a decision and stick with it regardless of the consequence so we all can get on with life including the OM!
Hi Tim. This sounds like more ultimatum making. I know exactly how you feel, but DBing is often a long process requiring a lot of patience. Don't force her to decide anything. I agree with Norman2 up there: ignore the phone calls, get a life, play with the kids, be her friend, keep doing the 180s, even if you are partially reconciled. Consider yourself lucky that reconciliation is at least on the mind of your W.
Like you, I have a cheating wife, and two children ages 2 and 4. I know how incredibly painful the thought of the dissolution of your young family can be - both for you and the kids -- and for her too! And somewhat like you, my W came back from the edge of divorce and now considers herself in an evaluatory stage. She is spending the night with OM tonite. Very hard. I am standing back and hoping the A will begin to lose its shine. I am convinced it can only do so with frequent contact.
Hang in there and good luck. If you haven't read them yet, read the old old threads by DBing champ MF, there is a lot of good advice in them.
