Quote: ------------------------------------- I am not 100% convinced that contact has completely ended. She has many good opportunities to contact him that are impossible for me to find out. I guess I am trusting her a little eventhough she hasn't earned it. -------------------------------------
Until all contact has ended, you have no relationship. Do you ever talk to the other man's live-in? That is a great way to establish some accountability. Have you setup an accountability system? Why would you trust someone that has proven untrustworthy? She hasn't earned your trust.
Quote: -------------------------------------- I have read "Surviving An Affair" by Dr. Willard Harley about 16 times. Good book, great advice, but of course life isn't textbook so I take what I can from it. The others I have not read. I was getting annoyed with self-help books for a while because they all said different things. I was going to pick up Michelle's book "Sex-Starved Marriage". Not sure if my situation fits. --------------------------------------
SAA is a good book, and if you apply the principles therein, you have a chance to save your relationship. The other books I mentioned are good as well.
Michele's book is excellent, but you are a long, long way away from good sex. You need a relationship for that.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
