Yup, the vicious circle of my hurt and his guilt... poisonous. I hear you.
You make a good point too about the litle pcs during the long haul. Maybe there wont be a dramatic moment of your H coming to his senses but that is just fine. I have seen on other threads that even when there is a drmatic turning point there is still major work to do and lot so chances for backsliding. So hey, maybe the baby step/ long haul approach is not so bad.
brava
Me: 36 He: 34 no kids Married: 2000 He left: July 05