Hey girl, it sounds like you two hit a lot of rough spots all in a row. I understand how much strain that can put on even the best of M's.
I hate to look like I'm beating a dead horse, but you really must pick up Mars/Venus and 5LL. I think these books will help you understand where your H is coming from (and help you understand yourself too).
Hang in there. If you'd like to talk on the phone some time, drop me an email at wllowwlk at hotmail dot com.
