Just caught up on your thread. You and Shocked have really written some stuff that resonated with me. Funny how different our lives/ backgrounds are but how similar our sitchs are in the end!!
My H too has never felt that needed and appreciated in our M. Sure in the beginning yes but then finances and my being able to earn more than him for a period really changed that fast. I cant imagine what it must be like for a man to be with woman like us who DO do such a great job of managing everything.
Though I dont have a full blown OW sitch there is a female "buddy"/friend and actually this has been a pattern. So I always got hurt about it and made him feel guilty and he kept on doing it. The real question is what role is that person (or persons) fulfilling for H...asking this question also empowers us more: what can WE do to fill that void? iso waiting around for H to realize how great we are.
Yup, men need to feel needed . Have you read The Care and Feeding of Husbands? Dr. Laura is quite the soap box preacher but geesh the letters in that book from men... broke my heart.
OK, slightly random post. I am feeling a bit scattered tonight. I have added this thread to my favs again so I am back on board!
brava
Me: 36 He: 34 no kids Married: 2000 He left: July 05
