Hi WCW. I fell upon your thread...I haven't looked at your old links yet, but I noticed a few things we have in common. You are working on being less controlling - I have been working on this as well. It's so hard, but I've learned to bite my lips many, many times. Something else I do is ask my H opinion about something - even small things & agree with what he says no matter what I really think. It's all in our actions. We have to show them we've changed. I try to tell myself that it's just a "preference" not a "need" to feel in control & have things go the way I would do it/want it.

Something else that caught my eye was your interest in seduction. HardHead gave some interesting suggestions on my thread. I would give a link, but I don't know how to set it up. I don't feel like I can follow through with a lot of his suggestions at this point though, but I liked. From what I gather you and your H are living in the same house and are piecing things back together so they may work well for you.

What I've decided is that seduction begins in the mind. I stick with the suggestions that Shocked gave and I do things like take a bubble bath with candles & wine & leave them in the bathroom so H will see it & give him a few images to think about. I have upped the conversations with sexual undertones lately and H has responded well - he's been comfortable & even carried on with them. I sometimes change clothes with the door open so H can sneek a peek if he wants. Once I was changing in the bathroom & realized I left my shirt in the bedroom. H and I were talking, so I walked through to the bedroom in my jeans & bra pausing to make a comment in our converstion - his eyes were glued to me I have really tried to think back to what it would be like dating someone (not that I ever tried to seduce someone, wasn't the chasing type). And you definately have to keep them wanting more. I'd love to hear anything you've tried and get suggestions from you.