I think it's amazing that SO is taking responsibility for his actions! I'd love to hear his perspective on the BB sometime.
I wonder if his attempt to own the whole thing is also a little bit of a power thing--does he feel like he has more power/ control over the situation if it's all his fault. Maybe he feels like he can fix it if it's all on him. It kind of goes with what you noted about him wanting to be a hero/ rescuer. Just my 2 cents.
