Quote: If you were riding on a bike and kept looking back, you are bound to run into a tree. I am sure you don't want this to happen to you, right?
Well-said! Thank you for putting it so succintly!
SO and I have developed a little language code. For example, last weekend we met for a brief time after work at a watering hole he used to hang out with regularity. He seemed pretty on-edge, so I finally asked him if he was okay. He said he was looking for "land mines". "Land mines" is the expression we've come up with to describe potential uncomfortable instances of running into women/girls he dated/whatever during our S. (Because yes, apparently there were more than 2, albeit very short-lived, like 1-2 weeks in duration.)
Developing an alternative language helps diffuse what could otherwise be hurtful or painful or just plain awkward. We both know what we mean when we talk about land minds in public, but there's nothing blaming about it. I think if we used XOW or something like that, it might make it much more difficult.
Quote: I am learning a lot from your thread in piecing as I know I will be here pretty soon myself!
I've got the lot next to mine reserved just for you! Come on in when you're ready to start building, or "piecing"! We've a great view of the woods from here!
Not too much going on the past couple of days. SO is on dad-duty so no long or steamy dates!
I had 2 meetings after work last night, so finished those up, grabbed some dinner and was home shortly before 10. Blech. What an evening!
My class is going along well, but my professor is pi$$ing me off. He asked a question, asking for my opinion, and now he's arguing with my responses. If my "opinion" was the wrong "answer", just tell me. Geesh!
I've spent a lot of time just "sitting with" the advice you've all given me about asking about possible other A's. The more I sit with it, the more comfortable I am with letting it go. I think the recent break with SO having dad duty has also helped me detach.
Don't get me wrong. We talk at LEAST once daily and often a lot more. We have a standing lunch date every week. Friday night we have a regular "date" scheduled. We're just not crammed up each other's a$$ all the time. And I think that's a good place for us to be right now.
Okay, off to do my homework. Let's see if I can write something else to pi$$ off my professor! Ahahahahaha! I love being a victim of the Socratic Method! (Not really...)
Quote: my professor is pi$$ing me off. He asked a question, asking for my opinion, and now he's arguing with my responses. If my "opinion" was the wrong "answer", just tell me. Geesh!
Ha! LOL! I don't know why this tickled my funny bone so much, but it did. Thank you!
Here's some professorese to help you translate those class participation moments: "Interesting!" You have no idea what we're talking about. "Tell me more" I wasn't listening. Please repeat yourself. "Thank you. Anyone else?" Please someone save our discussion from this slow agonizing death!
But arguing with a student's opinion? This is likely a compliment, M. He's intrigued by your challenging ideas and has brought out his saber for a bit of intellectual dueling (or he's threatened and is trying to quiet you before you take the class down a different direction that he had planned! )
Oh thank God, Gabe! I was hoping you'd weigh in on this!
Unfortunately I'm in a class by myself, literally! There is definitely no option for mutiny in this course!
Essentially, he asked me to prioritize 4 goals in the text and state, in 1 or 2 sentences, why. I drug out my Soc Sci hat and hit Maslow pretty hard. After I did, he started harping on just 1 of the goals. So I'm left with "wtf?".
I've done a little reading on the Socratic Method (which was brought to my attention by a co-worker this afternoon, who made it thru law school). I did a little research on it. I think my prof is using this in a very passive/aggressive manner.
MHO, of course, as a lowly, no-esteem, intellectually-challenged grad student!
Ahahahahaha! I love being a victim of the Socratic Method! (Not really...)