Martha,

I am learning a lot from your thread in piecing as I know I will be here pretty soon myself! Talk about the big picture here: SO has committed himself to you and the R. It is only painful to YOU to dredge up past XOWs. Quit holding on to the past and look ahead. If you were riding on a bike and kept looking back, you are bound to run into a tree. I am sure you don't want this to happen to you, right?