Hi Martha - How 'bout another perspective? What does it say about SO's state of mind that he finds 'the immaturity' attractive? I think sometimes we expect ourselves and everyone else to have the same 'needs' at all times, when in fact depending on a bunch of different influences we may go through phases. If we are very lucky with our partners, the phases can match.
Take for example this past 18 months. As NG was just ending the a, I was in full GAL mode. He was also hungry for distractions, we maintained a blistering social life. Somehow he drifted into an intense period at work, and became reluctant to go out quite so much. At the same time, I was feeling the need to process having 'survived' the mauling of an affair. We were both at home together, in our respective caves, at some level providing solace to each other. And now we are entering yet another phase, hopefully we will not be too much out of sync.
Could SO be going through a phase where the call to nurture is strong?
