I resumed my studies this month and the class is going well. I'm the only one in it, so I get pretty decent attention without tons of pressure. It's a reasonable study load and is helping me to focus on my thesis, so it's good.
S23 and family have purchased their first home. They will be moving in a couple of weeks, so I'll head up to help them move <again! >. I hope they stay in this place for a bit! This will make their 4th move in less than 2 yrs.
Things are well with D26 and family too. Both babies are growing like weeds and I find myself missing them if I don't see them about once a month. It's hard to believe they are 6 and 7 months old already!
I've signed another year's lease on the rental with my 2 gf's. I think it's best, considering plans with SO hinge on his D15 growing up and graduating. Just over 2 yrs to go on that front!
Things have simmered down a bit at work, too, thank goodness! I don't mind pressure and stress at work b/c I love my job, but 30 hrs in by Wednesday close of business makes for a very long week, especially when I worked over the weekend!
Last night we had a farewell party for my boss. She's the one who recruited me to the department, and I'm sad to see her go, but happy for her new opportunities. She and her hub are relocating to the Pacific NW, and it seems like a good move for them.
Initially I had invited SO to come to the party, but it became apparent to me yesterday afternoon that it really was not a y'all come thing for spouses. I told him that, and he said he was fine about it (he really sounded like he was), especially since he's on dad duty right now. However, just as I was walking into the restaurant/pub, he pulled into the parking lot! Now mind you, this isn't a place SO normally hangs out at. He said he just wanted to come to be near me. He hung out in the bar area and had a beer or two while I was in the back party room.
It was odd, and I'm not sure what to make of it. But I'm not going to get myself bent trying to figure it out. I'm going to chalk it up to his jealousy, although he in no way seemed mad or negatively jealous. He just gets that way sometimes. I think to some degree it is a reflection of his insecurities, and I honor those. Well, I'm not sure "honor" is the right word, but I recognize they are there and I am careful to take care of them. Does that make sense?
Just found this little diddy on Slowly's first thread and decided I wanted to post it here as a reminder to myself:
make room for H's dignity - he has said he made a mistake, and is trying to recover from it. he is sorry to have put me through this. his pride has taken a beating (having to confess to me). i may want him to say he is sorry every 5 minutes, but it will never happen. i need to allow him space and dignity. be satisfied he has at least once acknowledged his error; it probably feels like a lot more to him
Quote: The answer is YES, absolutely. Eventually you will come to understand that the OW was nothing more than a misguided attempt by your H to sooth his emotional pain. OWs/OMs are nothing more than their trying to re-write history, they are trying to re-capture the experience they had when they first met and fell in love with us....they persue the relationship like an addict seeks out their next fix....and like an addict while it feels good in the moment...it makes them feel like shi$ in the long run. When you think of the OW...feel sorry for her poor dumb pitiful a$$ because she sold her moral core, her dignity, her self respect and esteem to have hidden moments with another woman's man and in the process KNEW that SHE was tainted not special. SHE could have been anyone and I mean absolutely anyone that willingly made themselves available to man lost in pain and confusion. She's NOT someone to envy, in fact, she's someone to pity for her extremely desperate and low self esteem. Any woman that will settle for another woman's sloppy seconds has already decided that she's not good enough to attract a whole and healthy man on her own so she circles the injured MM like a shark waiting to strike...how sad and pathetic for her. T2
It sounds like you're burning the candle at both ends with school and work!
Quote: It was odd, and I'm not sure what to make of it. But I'm not going to get myself bent trying to figure it out. I'm going to chalk it up to his jealousy, although he in no way seemed mad or negatively jealous. He just gets that way sometimes. I think to some degree it is a reflection of his insecurities, and I honor those. Well, I'm not sure "honor" is the right word, but I recognize they are there and I am careful to take care of them. Does that make sense?
Sure, that makes sense. This is his issue to work on. You recognize that and do what you can, but ultimately he'll have to look at that sometime.
The excerpt I posted from Slowly's thread by T2 really hit home with me. It pretty much encapsulated everything I've been thinking about OW2.
SO told me the reason he dated her during our S is because he thought he could "fix" her, "fix" things for her. Apparently she's never had a real boyfriend before. WTF? She's 27 yrs old! I just don't get that.
(And yes, I'm ranting/venting here!) She's immature. She's still receiving financial support from her family. On her blog she went on and on about how great her mom and dad are. Makes me wonder how fantastic mommy and daddy would think she was if they knew she was for all intents and purposes screwing a married man?
I also don't get why SO seems to think she's so heroic, although she seems to be dropping in that area. I mean, for god's sake...she still gets excited about having a birthday! Give me a friggin' break!
Just how heroic is it to have an affair with a man who's in a committed relationship? How heroic is it to be his enabler?
>. I hope they stay in this place for a bit! This will make their 4th move in less than 2 yrs. 
