Sorry to hear that your week was so rough on you, Hon! And that he's in a rough spot at the same time. Sounds like he needs to visit his cave for a bit.
I was thinking about a different 'what if'. So as to not repeat MOS behaviors that got you in trouble in the first place, what could you do to self-care, meet your needs yourself tonight? 'member all those wonderful Venusian ways of self-caring that you've shared with me?
This is an important issue, as there will be times in the M when this happens again. When he won't be able, for whatever reason, to be there to feed you or address your needs.
Stay flexible and try slipping into a heavy self-care mode when you feel these expectancies rear their heads.
Later on, you can ask him to spend that special time with you.
