Hi Willow, I have just been reading your thread. When I first found out about H and OW, he described her as 'intriguing', and me as 'comfortable'. How's that for PMA stunting. Yesterday, I was having an uncomfortable discussion (you can check out my thread), and I said, you have no respect for me at all. He said 'I do have a lot of respect for you'. Now, he is still well entrenched in the OW... living with her, very little contact with me. He had come to my office, in support of some of her complaints to him about me. It really is the actions, not the words that count. His actions show total disrespect for me. If you see actions that show your H does, believe that, and don't dwell on the words. I know I'd rather see that he respected me, than hear him say it and while continuing to do everything that is the total opposite of that. Once
