Quote: To me, those very words are his indications of respect and admiration for you.
I really needed this Martian perspective. Good as I am, I'm still no Martian. I didn't realize that this language, these words, also indicate respect and admiration. Sometimes we Venusians also interpret this to mean, "I want to get into your pants," or something similar.
Quote: This seems like another dangerous "should". Stay with the mindset that the world is unfair, that "shoulds, oughts, and musts" are nonsense, and that his differences from you are for a variety of reasons, not merely one possibility.
Thank you for this reminder too. Really. I need to hear this. I don't want to end up in a cake-eating mode. That will just really set things back in an unwanted way.
I don't want to move backwards. I don't want to rehash the past. I want to gather up my tools and my knowledge and my skills and my love and move forward on a path that is positive and meaningful and rewarding for both SO and myself. And it is my fervent hope that it can be done together.
He's been mentioning a couple of times lately (before this came up) that he has my Valentine's gift on lay-away. Hmmmm...I wonder what it might be?
