Well, I'm to blame for poor communication over the years, I never started in the marriage with the kind of closeness that couple should share. Add 4 kids over 7 years, and it is not surprising that all her emotional needs were given thru the kids. We became good "parents" but never make it to a good "couple". Years fly by, until one day you look in the mirror and realise you are not "happy' in your relationship. The marriage can survive if you can open those communication lines, in non-threatening ways. We were not able to do this, despite careful guidance from various professionals. In the end, It is not fair to ask your partner to change their personalities, when you yourself are not able to change also. I like myself, have learned to love myself and hope to have one of my life's #1 needs met, to love and feel loved. It's too sad when people give up on that , and settle for a unloving, sexless marriage, with no joy or excitement. A much bigger shame than getting divorced, IMHO After that last child leaves home, it's just you and your spouse looking at each other. If you don't enjoy the same things,share the same dreams or even like each other, it will not be living happily ever after! Life is too short. Call it mid-life crisis, more like mid-life awareness.
