Oh hell, I think he should go rushing off to 'tie the knot', this is so romantic!
You do know, of course that the term 'tie the knot' comes from hand-fasting, where they would tie their hands together to symbolise union. It was said that the binds could not be removed until they had consumated the marriage,LOL.
Of course then the church made hand-fasting a non-legal way of getting married, but funnily enough people still use the term 'tie the knot'.
Just thought you might want that useless piece of information
Go for it, Wes - in fact, where are all the romantic installments?
Ya know Jo, I have been neglecting romantic even in my relationship. It's the comfortable type of relationship that doesn't include a whole lot of romance. The sex life is good and there has been some romance first, but I think we do need to have a romantic night...perhaps a quaint bed and breakfast or something. Something romantic after we get her moved back in to celebrate.
Anyway, she slips up with the husband/wife thing as often or more often than me. Last night when I asked why she was getting dolled up she said, "because I'm taking my husband out for drinks and dinner".
My GAL things are kinda coming back to bite me in the butt. The friends I made were all girls. She's jealous, probably rightfully so, when they call up. But she handled it in a playful way so it went over pretty good.
We almost have all her stuff back in the house. I took a day off last Thursday to get some of it done. It was weird, a little painful, and a good feeling at the same time. To see the life she made without me and remember her living there was painful, but when I considered that I was bringing the things back to the house it was pleasant and frankly a little unbelievable. It was like finding out that a dream that you had given up on came true after all.
Me
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
Quote: The friends I made were all girls. She's jealous, probably rightfully so, when they call up.
I can't believe they can afford calling so much from Vegas!
I can see how the moving back in process could involve some pain, especially when you're remembering the split-up. I must say that you did a masterful job of staying in a giving mode even then. I'm sure that helped to temper her upset/anger at the time.
How are things going with extended family? I wonder about that myself, b/c while XW and I are moving toward better terms, her family remains rather simply 'hateful'. How are your family and hers responding to the reconciliation.
How are things going with extended family? I wonder about that myself, b/c while XW and I are moving toward better terms, her family remains rather simply 'hateful'. How are your family and hers responding to the reconciliation.
Great question that I would love to hear the answer to also...I have the same fear If, If, If we were ever to reconcile.
Just, did you actually get divorced or just seperated?
Quote: How are things going with extended family? I wonder about that myself, b/c while XW and I are moving toward better terms, her family remains rather simply 'hateful'. How are your family and hers responding to the reconciliation
I actually have skirted the issue with my family. I haven't told them officially yet that we are back together. Pretty terrible hunh? Before this came up, they were a little "disappointed" I guess, but said they supported whatever I did. I did tell my BIL that the forgiveness was mine to give and no one else's so everyone would just have to understand that. I don't worry too much about my family.
As for her family, they've always supported getting back together. They are completely supportive. I think a big part of that is that my X didn't do a whole lot of slinging mud at me to her family. She was closelipped about the whole thing. And when she decided to try again, she absolved me of pretty much everything. She said that it was her fault and not mine.
Anyway, Vinces, yes we divorced in May 2005.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
Quote: I can't believe they can afford calling so much from Vegas!
I find it hard to believe also. I guess they felt they truly were my soulmate. Even have offered free lap dances. They haven't worried about the cost so much. I think it's because they got so much from me that they figured they could afford a few long distance calls.
Gabe, my wife wasn't very happy when I told her about my experience there. It was quite fun at the time. I'll take the married life over single lap dances though.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
