Thanks for the words of advice. I am in a really great place. So many people on these boards helped me. I wouldn't be where I am without you all--thanks.
I will post an update on my thread soon. I feel better about things with ex more than I ever have and most of it has only to do with me.
Interesting that you never actually stopped seeing ex, but you let go of the emotional connection. I can't do that in my situation, but is reaffirms what I believe. Stop pursuing but DO NOT stop treating them with love. You got to put it out there and expect nothing in return. That is a hard thing to do, but it is necessary. I think going completely dark only says that you have given up on them.
