I was very pleased to see things turn around for you--congratulations. You gave some good advice in the newcomers section also.
I have a question for you. I am to the point that I am stopping my communication with ex. He lives three hours from me so we rarely see each other, but we do speak literally every single night. As you probably already know, we are in a very codependent relationship. I have been waiting patiently for ex to start recovery for his addiction, and I realize that I am going to wait my life away if I continue doing things like I am doing. I have decided that I am going to tell him that as long as he is taking pills and not in a recovery program, I cannot have any sort of relationship with him.
My question for you is this. I noticed that right before you and ex got back together, you detached a lot from her. What did this involve? Did you go days, weeks or months without seeing or speaking to her or did things basically stay the same with you detaching emotionally. I am just curious.
I know my situation is much more complicated than yours and I really have no other choice but to stop all communication. I was just curious about the details of the downsizing in communication between you and ex.
