Quote: Is the LBS as biased in his/her depiction of the WAS as the WAS is of the LBS? Or are you still carrying the lion's share of R work?
Yes, at least in this case, my opinion of her was biased. I am not carrying the load of the R work. It's pretty much equal with periods where I'm doing more work and times when she is. I felt she was self-centered before, but now through our discussions I think that it was more self-preservation than self-centered. Given her mindset, there was really very little reason to reveal her feelings for me. Honestly Gabe, she is the one that is most secure in this relationship. It's as though when she made the decision to commit to us and realized she loved me, she threw herself into it. I'm the one that is reining things in, especially when we have a disagreement.
The only thing I note is that she still fights as though I'm the same person that had fights with her before. I think I threw her for a loop by being able to handle myself better. Perhaps when she's thrown off some preconceptions or bad remembrances of me, we'll really go a long way towards making a great relationship.
I've spent some time on the newcomers area giving advice and looking through their struggles. And know what? I'm glad this occurred. I really think that all of this was for the best and that if she had come back before I had a chance to work on myself that it wouldn't be easy to stay together.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
