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I wonder if its time for you to move over to Piecing?



I would, but isn't that "piecing your marriage back together?" I don't have a marriage to piece...maybe if there was one called piecing your divorce back together. Just kidding. Will you still look for me? In light of my current mood, I don't know if I'm quite ready for piecing.

Today I've come across a new delimma. I have my XW back living with me, she's pretty much the person I knew, we have had productive talks, done some stuff together, ML, etc, but I'm feeling really uncertain of this. Last night and this morning I've tried to analyze my feelings and I think I'm understanding what it is. The behavior, hers and mine, is that of people that have been married for years and it isn't enough. We are living together, and while we do spend time together, there is the hustle and bustle of life going on. I feel like we needed to spend abundant time on rediscovering each other before just plugging time together into available spots around other activities. I don't feel comfortable that she loves me and I don't feel comfortable that I love her, not in the way I used to. It might be that my comfort level has more to do with the uncertainty of my feelings than with anything she is doing or not doing. Know what I mean? Because of how I feel, I project that same feeling onto her. But the truth is..despite hearing "I love you", I don't feel loved. That's hard for me to admit. I don't know what to do about it. Do I give it more time and see if this uneasiness resolves or do I tell her how I feel? Maybe this is a question for piecing.

Gabe, the kids are adjusting very nicely to this. No acting out or testing limits. It's as though she never left.

In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years.
Abraham Lincoln

It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed.
Theodore Roosevelt