Quote: How does one keep up with self-care when the WAS returns fulltime? Is it less necessary now that your lovebank is being filled in part by your lover? Or is there a better balance than before the bomb, in which you keep feeding yourself some, making you less dependent on your lover for your needs?
Hard question Gabe. A lot of the previous things I did have been modified, but not a lot. 1) gym: Go with her now instead of alone 2) movies, restaurants: together 3) volleyball: still there as outlet 4) Friends: Still see them here at work. 5) Dating: Now my XW/girlfriend 6) Book: I hadn't done anything with that anyway for awhile, but I think I'll resume.
Things aren't that different with me. Before a fair amount of my time was dedicated to my kids' activities and it still is, only now she comes along. I guess we no longer are living separate lives. I do need to continue activities I enjoy on my own, but we also need some together.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
