It is just so great to hear your story Just. Thank you for posting your encouraging story. I hope a lot of people read your post.
I have been depressed since yesterday. STBX said he would call to talk about our settlement three weeks ago, and of course he never did. But I thought he might be having a second thought about our divorce, and even though I knew it was a dangerous thing to do, I had some hope..., and yesterday I received some paperwork in the mail from my lawyer, so now I feel betrayed again. STBX just decided to work things out through our lawyers rather than trying to settle between us, which is what he said he wants to.
Maybe in his mind none of these are considered "betrayal" or "lies", but he has said so many things and NONE have been excuted.
I thought I was getting better at "letting go" and "moving on", but he can still hurt me very badly just by showing that he really does not care about me. That is because I still remember our sweet memories, and on the other hand, STBX only remembers bad memories, which obviously is allowing him to do this emotionlessly.
Lately I have been hearing quite a bit of stories about those "walked away" spouses ended up being unhappy in their new lives. But in three other cases I heard about, since they remarried after divorce, even though they regret, they did not go back to their original partners.
I am not sure if mine will ever regret his decision. When I think of how I was truly his "first" love and how we have in a way "grown up" together and shared so many things together, including having our beautiful boy together, I feel no one can ever "replace" me and some part of him will miss me. But whenever I get a reminder like yesterday with more divorce paperwork, I feel so naive and cannot trust my judgement anymore.
Anyway, I hope more of us here will be encouraged by your sitch.
