You sound great! Nice solid attitude, and plenty of reason for optimism. I don't disagree with Jo about remaining cautious, but I don't think you should focus on what she did to you, etc... That would merely breed/maintain resentment and a focus on the past. The past is done and neither of you has a time machine. So keep present and future oriented. Stay focused on your personal goals and self-development, and continue to work hard to meet your own needs, allowing yourself to enjoy moments when she feeds you (while keeping expectations low).
Its likely that she still has a way to grow/change. One just can't do that overnight. Her guidance/goals will have to come from herself, not from being surrounded by you.
I'm still abit puzzled by your sitch. You did a great job staying positive and loving toward her despite her early negative attitude and later MLC-like behavior. Yet I haven't gotten a good feel on the DBing you did besides a version of an extended LRT.
What are your thoughts there? What did you try in terms of classic DBing and what is left to be done, if anything?
