Last dance???

[Just_Me]

Hi all,

Back to work after a weekend at the Broncos game. I must say this was a wonderful weekend that was full of surprises.

At some point I might have to move from this forum, but not just yet. There were some very dramatic and interesting developments and I'll try to at least give some insight if possible to a walk-away's mind.

Before I flew home, my XW called. She said, "I still love you", something that knocked me for a loop, but was not unwelcomed. It's been a year since I heard that and the last time I heard those words it was qualified with, "but I'm not IN love with you". She was at the house when I got home and we had pretty much an afternoon of discussing all this. Things felt very natural, as though we had a big fight and were finally just resolving it. She stayed the night. The funny thing is that despite how fast everything is going what feels most weird is that it doesn't feel weird.

As far as pointers or insights:
1. The changes you make to yourself, the efforts made to correct what was wrong, the time spent looking at yourself, do register. She noticed, she thought about us, she considered trying again, but there was another person in the picture and she told herself that it was only to get her back.

2) Being good to him/her does stick with them.
3) There is a tremendous amount of guilt. The apologies do come. The appreciation for your efforts comes. At this point that is very welcome and makes it easier, but I don't think it's something to demand.
4) Maybe there is a wake-up moment. I swear that in the last couple weeks that she's transformed before my eyes to the person I thought I new. That makes it both harder and easier. Easier to reconnect, but harder to take my time.
5) There is an actual effort on the WAS (or at least mine) to resist coming back. Avoiding pushing the issue though would help.

At this point we agreed to try with each other, but we aren't rushing towards remarriage or living together. She says that things are at my pace and my time. That as far as what happens with us, that's in my hands. The discussions have been very reasonable. It isn't, "you need to do this, that, and the other thing if this is going to work." There aren't stipulations attached to trying.

That's it for updates.