I had a long talk with my X last night, mainly just listening to what happened and how we reached this point from her perspective. Then we talked a bit more on the phone. And it turned into a pretty nice conversation.
After listening to her work through the things she's going through, I must say that she's in a better place. She's not asking to jump back into my life like nothing has happened. She is working things out in her head. Basically it sounds like the process an LBS goes through as they try to get a handle on their lives. It sounded healthy. She is taking some time to come to terms with the last year and get her head on straight. Whether she chooses to include me or I choose to be included in her future is really not a consideration at the moment. She doesn't want to make any big decisions until she's back to where she needs to be. Sounds very healthy.
She did ask if I had closed the door on any possible chance of being together again and I told her that I hadn't. I told her to work through what she needs to work through and then we'd see where we stood. Perhaps after having time to examine herself she'll find she doesn't want to try again. And perhaps I'll feel the same. But this is definitely different than what I said yesterday when I said it was over--no more trying. I guess it was a lie I told myself. I'm willing to just see where this goes.
That's it for updates. I'm out of here early if possible to get to my son's swim meet. Ta ta
Me
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
