Quote: She said she guessed it was loneliness and a desire to put her family back together for the kids' sake that contributed to her decision to reconcile with her XH. They both agreed, according to her, that no one was better off, not even the kids because they were embroiled once again in an unpleasant home environment... Obviously, she doesn't sound like great dating material.
I've run across a few such women, waffling b/t staying D and reconciling. To me, it does reflect that lack of inner peace and confidence in one's future that DBing helps to bring about. I don't think this chase toward unattainable externally-created peace necessarily involves the LBS or an OP. It could be compulsive shopping, drinking, gambling, exercise, or philosophy adopting. My take is that DBing is awesome in that it teaches one to adopt a healthy balance, and to do so by continually eyeing one's goals and one's progress (and responsibility for any movement or lack thereof) toward those goals.
