This sure is a fine predicament we find ourselves in, isn't it Ollie?
Maybe this is the best time for this to happen. You're not the same person that you were just a few short months ago. Your vision of the relationship that you need is also much different than what you once would have settled for, so relax.
Speculating on what she is doing or thinking is just pushing you backward, but the good news is that you've changed, and you no longer stay stuck (man this ride just seems to go on and on) . Onething I do know is that it's just too early to really know what she is thinking. Heck, most likely she doesn't know what she wants for herself. I'm sure she has regrets, and her life is not all that she thought it would be, but you yourself have said that the reasons have to be better than that. It's going to take time and probably much patience to get to the answers that you feel you can live with.
So I guess then my advice is to ask the questions that you need the answers to most. This time around you have absolutely nothing to lose! I think you're handling this so well. It's a hard thing when we finally craft a life for ourselves and have gotten some happiness back in our hearts. The hurt that they left us with is still there. Maybe eventually it will fade to the background but for right now we still remember the pain. For some of us, the pain in itself is enough of a reason to run just as fast as we can. Then we're no better than the WAW's themselves, because we all know that running is the easy thing to do!
