I don't have a reply to your post as of yet. But, tonight I will have a talk with her about it. See, there was more to last night's saga that I haven't shared yet.
My W takes several medications regularly. Lately, my W has been very groggy. She sleeps a awful lot and at times can't keep her eyes open. She has buned a few holes in t-shirts that she wears, from smoking a cigarette while reclined watching TV. Last night while I was a wake in bed, she pop up opened her eyes and grabbed for one. I told her that she better not fall asleep with that in her hand.
Moments later, I heard a slight snore. I looked at the cig and watched it begin to slip. I caught it just before it hit the bed sheet. I was furious!!!!
I grabbed it whole in my bare hands. She said I got it, give it to me. I said in a loud voice, NO! I picked up the ashtray and box of cig's and marched out of the room. I placed them on the kitchen counter and by the time I got back to the room she was face down asleep in her pillow.
I had had enough! I'm not going to worry about her, and babysit her cig smoking! I was so MAD! I left the next morning with out saying a thing to her, no kiss good bye, paper still in the drive.....
When I got home from work last night, I didn't approach her at all, kept distant. She knew I was still PO'd. While she was making dinner, I said we've gotta talk. She had an acknowledgement and fear look in her eyes. I told her how mad I was from last night and I wans't going to cover her any more , that I feared for not inly her safety, but mine and D10's well. She said that she knew that and made herself a promise "No more"....
But, she hadn't said she was sorry. A bit later, again, I reinforced my concerns and anger with what and happened. And she replied OK, I said I was sorry and that I wouldnt happen again. I told No, you never did say you were sorry. She dissagreed. I said, "You simply sai that it would nver happen again, you never said your were sorry".
She looked at me then appologized. And we both just looked into each others eyes. I felt like it was a forced appology.
I gotta run now Kids are back in school. But I know that the root of the problem is the Rx's that she takes and that issue is next on my list.
Snook.
"And wrinkles only go where the smiles have been." J. Buffett
