Nice ownership. I find that SO's are ok with it as long as it is a inclusive thing. done together. as your post indicated it initially was. Long term, needs to get phased out, IMO.
More questions. How long did it go on that you were looking at it, then instead of initiating-- started waiting for her to? Ever have the thought, 'I am a guy its obvious I want it. Ill just wait for her to initiate. Dont want to 'force' my evil male desires on her'.
time spent browsing could have been better spent, developing EC in various QT activities.
I don't know why I was looking, Releases flood of arousal chemicals, very nuero pleasant, places brain in beta wave state. non logical, non productive, non creative. very satiating. species perpetuation drives are very selfish, and strong. You heard your W, kudos for that, gonna take time to undue still.
Nothing to beat yourself up about, stay in present, keep her in present, look to future. If she brings it up, If you havent already find some way to address it. Do not get caught up in it repeatedly. ex 'I am sorry. It was insensitive of me. I realized it was hurting you, I fixed it Its done. I want us to move on from it now.' Do not weep wail and flog yourself.
Does Your W has thyroid problems also? sheesh it seems to be a epidemic, I need to do some research I guess.
question, why wait for bed time to ML? my x needed 2 hours to wind down from work, typically not always but preferred early evening over bedtime. Mornings were also good when I went to work, after she did. Your T levels are going to be highest in the morning also. Morning nookie is GOOD, IMO, sets the whole day off right and relaxed and able to think of what I need to do instead of what need I have to do. If memory serves me, it lead to her being more sexual, later in the day also.
What steps are you taking to implement Nops suggestion of discussion and compromise and agreement. Do not use working on yourself as a way to avoid conflict. Do not use attraction as a way to avoid setting rules and boundaries.
but preferred early evening over bedtime. Mornings were also good when I went to work, after she did. Your T levels are going to be highest in the morning also. Morning nookie is GOOD, IMO, sets the whole day off right and relaxed and able to think of what I need to do instead of what need I have to do. If memory serves me, it lead to her being more sexual, later in the day also.