My ex and I have been divorced for just over two years. I'd like to maintain the friendship with her, but she doesn't seem to want to be friends.
I use the word "seem," because she has asked me to not make contact with her, yet she emails me, on average, once a week. I might not hear from her for a month, and then I'll receive several emails from her. The topic will be something odd, such as "can you give some of our old Christmas ornaments to somebody," or "will you buy a rug from me." Usually, the emails she sends are about something beneficial to her. Nevertheless, she goes out of her way to contact me.
I don't know how much of the story of our marriage I should tell. A brief synopsis -- we were happy for the first ten years or so, and not happy for the next five. She walked out to be with another man, although it wasn't physical. I know I wasn't a perfect husband by any stretch. Of course, by the time she chose to walk, she'd pretty much made up her mind and it was a done deal.
Things got nasty during the D, and then we started to build a friendship, which disintigrated around a year after our D when she found that I still was friends with an ex-friend of hers -- a friend about whom I admitted to her I'd always had some sexual feelings.
She will rebuff any contacts I attempt to make with her, yet she contacts me all the time. Rarely do a few days go by without an email or a telephone call from her.
I know this is a bit odd, but I'd appreciate any advice you can give me. It isn't like my life depends upon being friends with her or anything, but she and I really were best friends throughout our marriage, and I really miss that.
