MrAzz, I wanted to comment on the books I'm reading. The men...again, I have no idea if it's correct or not.
But the women I didn't really do justice on. It's no so much Am I pretty, as am I captivating. Do I capture and hold your attention? Am I the only woman in the room?
There is actually very little about physical beauty in the book and most is centered on Woman, as the whole package.
I wanted to clarify that, lest anyone think I'm more vain than I really am. lol
Blackfoot, the author was not suggesting any paths to DEAL with men's essential question, mostly just saying "This is what it is...this is the central question in men's hearts". He did suggest taking these questions to God but not eliminating them from one's makeup, as this is what makes us Men and Women.