you guys are funny. When I said Home improvement, (somebody has new homes on the mind) I meant a womans idea that when she marries a man he is really great..... he just has one or two littlle bittty things she needs to change about him.
When a guy get married, IMO, we know what your idiosyncrasies are. we say fine. Ill accept these things about her. She isnt perfect, but she is close enough that I will choose to take care of her untill.....
Then the betaizing begins, the taming of the wildness, the home improvement. which feels like non acceptance. then the walls start going up. You liked me before, then I gave you 'everything' and now Im not good enough. The man is stumped. WTH. walls go up, then the need to feel 'close'. 'connected' whatever that means start getting voiced. Sheesh woman, I work hard, put food on the table, give the kids a decent home and education. What the heck do you want from me.
