Hi Blackfoot,
Great thread, and sooo true. My H is too placating I need him to take control once in a while.
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If you are in a LTR, you can do the same even on a mild level. Go take a new activity class together, even if its just a couple hours, something as simple as rollerblading together or even milder, dance lessons.



Dance lessons! Just the best. We were doing salsa lessons a little while back to try to improve our EC by doing something together where we didn't need to talk. It was great! It did take about 5 or 6 lessons before I just spat it out and said to H if you want sex why not try me after salsa lessons! I could not believe he was being so dumb as not to notice how seductive it was to me -LOL

It was really noticeable however how some men in the dance class would just LEAD and some men (including my H ) would not. Now I am a feisty female but the whole point of dancing is that the man LEADS and the best dancers are the men who can lead a feisty female. And I guess it is the same with sex, we want the man to take the lead to show us we are desirable, to show us they have passions that are hard to deny. If a man takes no for an answer too readily it means he is a wimp. I am as right on as the next woman of my generation but there is a difference between No tee hee, mmm no not really and a serious NO I don't want to. And a man needs to be able to hear that difference.

I must get the mean gene book. That's what it is all about, the woman saying no is about not wanting a wimp to father her son (somewhere deep down at the gene level of consciousness that we are not really aware of). Of course we want to be respected but our genes put up those barriers for a reason, to check the man has what it takes to knock them down.

I am going to have to get H to read this thread.

Fran

if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs
Erica Jong