Blackfoot...okay, you have sufficiently stirred up the whole board, lol. I agree that Hairdog should emulate some of the manly, assertive stuff you suggest, however he does have to walk a line here and not overwhelm her because she needs to feel in control. She gets some stimulation from the fights and D talk, and the Dog is able to control his reaction better. I also find it interesting that she denies her rejecting behavior... on some level, she knows she is not playing fair but can't/won't admit it. He is getting through though and communicating his unhappiness...the goal here now is to see if they can establish a more regular pattern...she has to feel she's "allowing" it to happen.
Hairdog, I recognize your W's defensive, controlling behavior because I was the Queen at this...in fact, I chose a man I thought I could control...until one day I had the epiphany it wasn't working for me (and that I even got rather turned on by some submissive thoughts). Just wanted to say I think you are doing a good job here being confident and non-reactive but not over the top (which would threaten her). Keep walking the line, and...
