Quote: I am open and honest, she is sometimes, but a lot of times she says "that's private (or personal)". Sure, some things are, but she says this about simple little things, that come out later, and I just wonder why that was "private/personal" a day ago???
People have a right to have some things be private and personal (George Bush probably would disagree). This has a lot to do with trust. It might seem that a person who desires some things to be private and personal is hiding something. On the other hand, not wanting the other person to have some things remain private and personal shows a lack of trust. I certainly don't want anyone listening to my conversations, for example, and I have nothing to hide.
One thing I am pleased with is that I always granted my ex her privacy. If she said she'd be home late, I didn't hit her with "20 questions." I never attempted to read her emails, and to the best of my knowledge, she never attempted to read mine. We never picked up each others' cell phones. If she was on the phone, I left the room so she could talk in private.
That wasn't enough to keep our marriage together, but lack of respect for each others' privacy isn't what blew it apart either.
