Quote: Is your W not allowed to have 'private' or 'personal'???
Posting to a BB seems pretty harmless (you're posting here)and you're getting so worked up about her finding an outlet to talk seems pretty controlling.
How do I help or fix that???
You don't.
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It's not the fact that she is on the other BB, it's what she is being fed there. She doesn't 'post' anything, but she has been 'PM'ing with a couple of people, and I don't know what they've told her, but it brought back up a bunch of crap from the past, 11 years ago. I didn't think it was healthly for our M that she start re-hashing all this old stuff again when we are trying to build our new M. W told me she would quit over a week and a 1/2 ago, then told me the other day that she quit, yet then she logged right on from home.
My main point was she said she was going to do something and didn't, then said she did but hadn't. I don't mind her looking for help and advice, but she was get bad advice there, and W even admitted that, and that was why she said she'd have her account removed a week and a 1/2 ago.
Also, before we got back together, we decided that we needed to be 'open and honest' with each other, so as not to fall back into the same way we were before. I am open and honest, she is sometimes, but a lot of times she says "that's private (or personal)". Sure, some things are, but she says this about simple little things, that come out later, and I just wonder why that was "private/personal" a day ago???
Oh, and I know I can't fix her, but I wish she'd read some of the books, she seems to be stuck and I know I can't get her out of it. She needs to gather some knowledge on how to help re-build our M, other than just what our MC told us.
