Quote: So it's "human nature" to close and lock a door, just so you're forced to stay and listen to them recite everything you've ever done wrong? Is that how you show your anger to your W? That doesn't fit that that BSLI stuff you were talking about. But if that's the case, I guess I'm just a wimp cuz I don't wanna deal with it but I don't have the courage to stand up to it either.
Star
Star,
We all do stupid things, thing we regret later. No, locking someone out is not nice, and definitely not acceptable, but in the heat of the moment, we do stupid things like this. We treat each like trash at times, unfortunately, that is the "ugly side" of Human Nature.
Anger is a horrible thing, I know this first hand. I had anger at my W, I had anger at my failure to commincate clearly what I needed, wanted, from the other BB I was on. I blew up. When 5 people don't understand you, especially on the Web, it's very easy to blow up -- you aren't in a room with them, so waht's it matter?
Is that right? No. Is that Wrong? Yes and No. It's how you word things on the Web that you have to be very careful about. Face to Face, you can see the emotions, the cry for help, but that isn't here on the Web.
You are not a wimp if you don't want to argue. Sometimes, it takes walking away to stop the argument. Sometimes, that makes you the bigger person, you tookk the high road, tho you thought it was the low one, you actually broke off the fight, for a good cause, ending it. Never feel bad about that.
Courage, read the books, they will give you the help, it doesn't take "courage". I remember the first time I put PMA to full force, I went to the grocery store. Big smiles, said "Hi" -- totally un-me -- but I got that bakc in return. I chatted a second with the cashier, then she struck up a conversation.
It's not courage Star, it just doing what you have to do, move forward.
Happy New Year All!!!
W and I had the best one in 20 years... It's all fresh again.
I go back to my Dr. this week, think my meds don't work anymore, the whole roller coaster, when I shouldn't have one... It's nuts.
I think, and I know W agrees, 2006, this is gonna be a better year, if not the best since we met. We are on the same page, as one, we had so much fun last night, it was great.
