Me - 40 W - 40 D - 13 Dog - 4 years Married - 16 & 1/2 years, or New Marriage, 9+ months.
2004: W starts a new job at a major company in July, in August they have a Team Meeting, (her team is spreadd out over many states).
Sept. 2004: Things are wrong, I can "feel" it. I start snooping, to no avail. W has 2 cell phones, and carries them with her at all times, dog walks etc. She also starts coming home late from work. NOTE: I never had a cell phone, never wanted one, didn't know how to use one. I used to work for "The Phone Company", and hated phones, so a cell was the last thing I wanted.
Oct. 2004: W tries to admit to and affair, (I realize this later) but backs out very quickly, saying it was prior to our engagement, then expains how she is a terrible person... I am confused. D, sitting in the car, goes into the drugstore to find out waht is taking W so long. W is standing near the door, already paid for her stuff, but on the phone with a man. D tells me this as soon as they get home. W says she's been talking to BIL about us. (gullible me huh?)
End of Oct. 2004: W was supposed to deposit our paychecks, but traffic was bad. At 3am that night, I awoke and W quickly got off he cell phone, D was asleep on the couch, they didn't go to work or school the next morning. I knew the checks hadn't been depostitted, so, for the first time in my Life, I went into W's purse. I had to go by the ATM in the morning anuway to get cash, so I thought I deposit the checks. They were wrapped inside and envelope, a Past-Due notice and there was another piece of paper there too. That piecce of paper turned out to be a poem by the OM, confesseing to what htey had done, asking God to spare the hurt peole the hurt, and how he looked forward to the future with my W and D.
W was passed out in bed, but I cam e up and read her his poem, she went into the bathroom, looked the door, and cussed up a storm. That evening, she admitted to the Affair.
It started, "they hit it off", at the Team Meeting, then emailed and talked on the phone, then in eraly October, 9I found this ou later), they had their Physical Affair.
I contacted her work since the phones were "company" phones, and the calls costing the company. I proceeded with Legal issues.
Mid-November, W tried to break off the EA, the PA she did stop, but she didn't have the will-power to end to EA. Finally, a week later, two days before Thanksgiving, OM broke it off for good, W was destroyed. She had already put down a payment for an apartment and new furniture, for "their Lives Together", yet little did she know, under Virginia Law, He, the OM, could not stay there until we were divorced. Ooops!!! -- Plus now he dumped her, he got what he wanted... --
After that, December was great. W and I spent time together, had wild sex, hung out much more than in years. -- Mean time, I'm still reading DB, DR, and this other book, appying PMA, "Act as If" and BSLI (this may be new to folks here, I'll explain that later.
