You CAN do this! You don't have to want to, but you can. He is trying to get a rise out of you obviously. I know from where you're sitting it's frustrating and maddening, but please don't respond to his bait. It didnt work this morning so he's trying to lay it on you again this afternoon. He's wrong.. and I'm sure if you go ahead and go, he'll say you didnt care, the dinner was more important than your kids etc. Whatever he throws out there... let it roll off... don't respond. He wants you to take the bait and start an argument so he can say hurtful, mean spiteful things to you that you don't deserve in order to punish you. Go.. have a good time. He's probably going to be ticked later, and when he is.. have something waiting.. a form letter response. H, I understand you didnt want me to go and I can understand why, but I had to go as part of my job. If you want to express your feelings, I'll listen. Let him vent.. don't respons.. don't defend... shake your head and say uh huh.. give him a hug.. say "I'm sorry this is all so hard for you". Then get a bath and go to bed if you can without defending or arguing. Is this possible at all?
Thinking of you. I know this is hard. I wish you didnt have to deal with this. Huggs.
