You did great and that is something to feel great about!!
Do not expect a change in H immediately. You need to be consistent in what you do. These things take TIME. Quit doing it with the expectations that it will influence him and thus control how he responds. Do what you can do. Expect nothing back. And keep doing it. And keep doing it. That's what DBing is!! It takes a lot of time to turn the tide. You are just now starting to re-focus on yourself. This takes so much strength because you have to work on changing YOU without expectations on what you will get back. Why you MUST detach and not take it personal. You must make these changes permanent and be patient while waiting for results!!!
Good job and keep doing it! Control your emotions, your reactions, keep your cool...you've got to start thinking of this like a strategy, a game, and be determined to win. The challenge is with yourself...how much can you embrace these changes within yourself REGARDLESS what another person does??? You can do this.
