Your H seems very bitter. I can't say I would be totally different but as others have said to Amy and probably you, I would give anything if my W did a fraction of what you are doing to fix your marriage. I would fall down on my knees, ask God for strength to help myself be a better man, and then for giving her the strength to accept responsibility for her actions and try to make good in our marriage. I think he still loves you. If not, he'd just leave. It's when they STOP fighting that they maybe don't love you. He just seems to need to remind you what you did every minute of the day. That sucks that he needs to do that. I think someone suggested you change tactics. I agree. You said you defend yourself all the time. Try not doing that. Let him vent and just agree with his feelings. It hurts, but maybe he would not feel like doing it so much if he didn't get that rise out of you. Just a stab in the dark. I hope you feel better. Don't worry about what he thinks about the board, books or anything, make him focus on what YOU are doing, nor reading.
