Or the toy store incident. I proposed we go the next day or the next day or the next day. Just not right at the moment because it was D3's bedtime. And he said "We're going now, see ya".

Heather, coupling this with an earlier statement that H as a bunch of toys stored in the attic, make me think that H was going to the toy store as much for himself as for exchanging S5's toy. The act that H plays to the desires and wants of D5 makes H look to S5 like more of a friend than a parent. And of course S5 will like a friend who wants to go to the toy store at 8PM rather than someone who wants to go home and participate in D3's bedtime routine. It just seems to me that H is not emotionally mature enough to be a parent.

When I talked with the DB counselor, she said that she had a theory that MLC'ers think more like teens than adults b/c they process information with the amygdula part of the brain which is deals more on an emotional level than a reasoning level. I know that when WAW talks about D15 & D13 its always about what WAW needs from them, not what DD's need from their mother. For a long time I tried to be the parent to WAW and I made myself crazy. Now I try to protect DD's from her nonsense as much as possible, but I let them see and experience some her $#!+ sometimes too. At 5 & 3 I'm not sure kid's at that age can see that their dad is not acting like a dad. At 13 & 15, they can.

"Heather, I don't love you, I don't respect you, I don't care what your opinions are, I just want to be with my kids."

Surprise! I have actually heard some of these words. Way back in Sep, 2004, WAW & I went to 2 MC sessions. The C told me that DD's were my "hook, use your hook." At first I was aghast, I would never use DD's by withholding them from WAW, but I use them to stay in contact w/WAW. Maybe thru DD's we can reconcile, I don't know.