Secondly, this is where the counselor, the third neutral party will help me significantly. Because every time someone sees my point of view, I will instantly shift to my H's point of view, or what I THINK his point of view is.
And this is where the title of your thread comes into play? Learning to trust myself
Have you listened to the Keeping Love Alive tapes? You know the one that talks about 'Sue' and 'Tom'?
It's a chicken and egg story that just keeps going round and round while it swirls down the drain.
I'm sure that deep down each of us on this board have at some point taken a look at ourselves and tried to figure out what we contributed to the mess that we are in. And part of DB'ing is identifying those habits or character traits and changing them. By changing those habits and traits, we hope to put a stopper in the drain and save what's left and then find away to fill the sink again.
