Sometimes when we're overwhelmed, we start thinking that this is what will always be, or that this is "the only chance" to do something. You and H are not preparing to say good bye as one leaves to colonize another solar system or something. There will be more chances to make more dreams come true, if you get through the crisis right now.
Don't pressure yourself over getting him a job. It's a big town, and if through the MC the two of you can agree that he needs to be at home more and not travelling so much, he can find work.
I disagree completely with his stance on bedtime, but I'm a very different parent than he is. My S6 is tucked in, lights out, by 8:00 most school nights when he's here at home. I don't know what happens when he's with his Mom.
As you head into MC, try to remember some of those positives that you posted. It will have to be one helluva counselor, and it will take a lot of effort on your part and on H's part, but you're not beaten yet. When you have to stop trying, if that time comes, you will know.
Prayers and hugs,
K
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